Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
There are many ways to become a father. Some come by it naturally, while others become fathers through foster care or adoption. In my case, I became a father naturally and through the miracle of adoption. Continue reading “A Gift from God”
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
I remember when I found out that I was going to be a father. Even though my wife and I planned to become parents, the reality still came as a shock. I started to get scared when I thought of the responsibility that I now had. Continue reading “Don’t Be Afraid”
And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
I was on the subway one morning on my way to work when I overheard a conversation between 2 young guys. From what I could tell, one had recently gotten married and naturally, the conversation turned to family. When asked about his plans for having kids, this guy said that he and his wife weren’t planning to have kids. He said, “I just don’t want the hassle.” Continue reading “Being Fruitful”
This article originally appeared in the HuffPost on June 29, 2017.
My family and I just returned from a two-week whirlwind tour of five colleges across four states. My oldest daughter Julia will be a high school senior in the fall so we used part of our summer vacation to visit the colleges that she is most interested in. Continue reading “Three Keys to Preparing a Child for College”
As a man, especially a black man, I am programmed to be the hunter and gatherer for my family. This means that my traditional role would be to work and to bring home the “bacon” for my family. For the majority of my life, I did just that. I had a successful career in management and, together with my wife, provided a very comfortable lifestyle for our family. However, success comes with a cost. Continue reading “Three Keys to Parent Leadership”
This article originally appeared in The Good Men Project on May 16, 2017.
I recently had a conversation with someone and the subject naturally turned to our children. When I said that I had one child with special needs and two other children, whom we adopted from another country, who needed extra time and attention to catch up on basic educational skills, his first words were “I feel so sorry for you.” Why I said. “Because of your poor luck,” he replied. I told him the same thing that I am telling you. Don’t feel sorry for me, my kids are doing just fine. Continue reading “Don’t Feel Sorry for Me”