Don’t Feel Sorry for Me

This article originally appeared in The Good Men Project on May 16, 2017.

I recently had a conversation with someone and the subject naturally turned to our children.  When I said that I had one child with special needs and two other children, whom we adopted from another country, who needed extra time and attention to catch up on basic educational skills, his first words were “I feel so sorry for you.”  Why I said.  “Because of your poor luck,” he replied.  I told him the same thing that I am telling you.  Don’t feel sorry for me, my kids are doing just fine.   Continue reading “Don’t Feel Sorry for Me”

4 Ways That Becoming a Parent Made Me a Better Leader

African American Father and son spending time together.
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This article originally appeared in the Huffington Post on November 30, 2016.

Like all working parents, I have sometimes struggled with balancing my responsibilities to an employer versus my responsibilities as a parent; however, make no mistake – my responsibilities as a parent will always come first.  Like most men, I initially assumed my role in life was to be a provider for my family.  When I looked at various career fields, my primary criteria was potential income instead of where I could best serve.  After college and a tour of duty in the military, I started my career in the technology field and quickly rose through the ranks.  Soon I was in management with ever increasing levels of responsibility.  From the outside, I was on a very successful career path but on the inside, I was searching for my purpose.  I was successful as a manager but had yet to learn the true meaning of leadership. Continue reading “4 Ways That Becoming a Parent Made Me a Better Leader”